When You Feel Disconnected From Yourself
The feeling can be difficult to name, but something doesn’t feel quite right.
Maybe you feel distant from your emotions — like you’re going through the motions but not really in your life.
Perhaps you’re saying “I’m fine” on the outside, but inside, there’s a quiet feeling of flatness, uncertainty, or disconnection.
You might feel like you’ve lost your sense of direction, identity, or spark.
This is something I hear often in the therapy room — and it matters.
What does it mean to feel disconnected from yourself?
It can show up in different ways:
Struggling to make decisions because you’re not sure what you really want
Feeling out of sync with the people or spaces around you
Realising you’ve been in autopilot, just getting through
Emotions feeling muted or distant — not sad, not happy, just... flat
Feeling like you don’t fully recognise yourself
Disconnection often builds quietly, especially in times of transition, change, or prolonged emotional effort. You might not be sure what caused it — only that something inside feels missing or far away.
Why this happens
You might feel disconnected because:
You’ve been focused on supporting others and lost touch with your own needs
You’ve gone through a loss, a change, or a shift in identity
You’ve adapted to fit into roles that no longer feel true to you
You’ve been coping for so long that slowing down now feels unfamiliar
Over time, these experiences can silence parts of you — the ones that know what you value, what you need, and who you really are.
What therapy can offer
Therapy doesn’t offer a map or a quick answer — but it does offer something powerful:
A space to find a way back to yourself.
It’s a place to pause, to reflect, and to notice what’s been left unheard.
Together, we explore what’s present for you — with curiosity, warmth, and respect.
This process can help you reconnect with your emotions, your values, and your sense of direction — not by being told who you are, but by remembering what has always been there.
A place to begin
If you’ve been feeling distant from yourself or unsure what you need, therapy can offer a gentle space to begin.
You don’t have to have a clear reason or the right words. Just a sense that something inside is asking to be heard.
📍 I offer counselling in Lymington and online across the UK.
🌿 You’re welcome to get in touch if you’d like to find out more.